( A selection of responses to a 23 year old man's request for advice on how to find an older women to spank him . From ALT.com , CLICK HERE for full posting thread . )
" Why is it so hard to find an older women to beat my naughty smooth bottom severely over her knee I'm 23 and can't find one anywhere any suggestions ?
- daewoo26 "
SELECTED REPLIES
( These have been edited , one of the problems may be that so many can not write acceptable English or spell correctly ! )
You might also get more success if you don't restrict your searches to experienced Dom's. There are plenty of "older" women who might like to try something new and kinky and are just a bit shy on their first new experience. You could end up being the 'first' for many curious women in your area!
Go in the supermarket at night time show your cute bottom and smile .
This one thinks it is maybe because your focus is more on your desires.. True submission lies in focusing on the desires of the One who owns you even if it isn't what you want.
There are plenty of women who are interesting in adopting a younger boy. Don't concentrate on that specifically, but rather on a relationship with a kink-friendly woman.
Chat rooms and ads like these are a great start.
Have you thought about communicating with the women? What is the common ground here? WHY should they be into spanking??
It is very hard, via an
online contact forum, to find a dominant woman to spank your bum. These women
who advertise receive numerous such requests on a daily basis and could not
possibly respond to all enquiries. Furthermore to these women you are a
stranger, an unknown quantity, so for reasons of safety many would not respond.
Also, if all you talk about is having your bum spanked it does get a little
boring.
A tried and tested way to find a woman to satisfy your spanking fetish is to
respond to an advert from a Dominant Woman or Mistress in a local contact
magazine. The advert doe not have to specifically mention spanking - most
dominant women provide this service/training). Just phone up and ask
(respectfully!!) if you can come for a training session, normally an hour,
(longer sessions are usually negotiable). In most cases, if you do not sound like
a complete weirdo, the woman will ask you when you want to visit and will tell
you what her fee is (it is not free - remember these women are providing a
service and are giving you part of their valuable time and attention). Be sure
to phone up on the day you intend to visit. Many girls require this in order to
confirm the booking and scheduled time and also to deter time-wasters. Arrive
neatly-dressed and pay particular attention to hygiene - in other words have a
shower before you visit her!! When you arrive at her place, and after you have
been ushered in to her training room, give her her fee and explain nicely what
you require. As long as you are presentable and don't behave like a nutter or
idiot you should have a wonderful, stimulating experience with your Domme.
Have you tried just meeting girls normally.. and as you guys get into stuff, ask if she'd like to do that? as opposed to trying to find someone to just spank, and going about it that way..
Exactly think what you can do for them not they can do with you!
I'm thinking that you might want to find where the local BDSM clubs and munches are, and start making some contacts. Yours is a rather specific fetish, but I'm sure you can find someone willing to properly punish your posterior.
I agree with many of the
others, first try and broaden what you are looking for and once you make
connections talk to what you enjoy and maybe then you can find a willing
partner.
Probably more important is don’t give up and keep looking.
Patience, My friend, patience. If you have filled out your profile here in alt., then, I would suggest going into the chat rooms and getting to know people and let them get to know you. The more people you meet and pique the interest of, the more people will look at your profile, and perhaps the woman you are looking for will see and contact you. Good luck in your search, I hope you find what and Who you are looking for!
I am an older woman and have had a lot of younger men men respond to my ad. I don't respond to them because I feel uncomfortable with younger men because of my body condition is going south.
( I ) agree with other
responses here that you need to establish at least a minimal relationship first.
You may get lucky *occasionally* with a first time meeting, but not usually.
Also, just do a little more research of ladies profiles on this site. Means
you'll have to do your homework, & actually spend some of your precious time
writing letters to individual ladies. If it's important enough to you, you'll do
that (or already have...).
Remember too, that women often need to meet with you at a 'safe' location first.
Especially a young strong man such as yourself. Sometimes there is a fear factor
involved for a woman- being alone with a man who has the potential of turning on
her. Something you may consider in this light - Write to couples (regardless of
sexual persuasions) who want to play with a single male. That way, the lady
involved feels safe in the company of someone she already knows. I'm an exception to the above rule only because I'm very self confident, and can
handle myself. I also have a few safeguards in place in the event that I'm wrong
about someone - LOL.
I'd be happy to spank yer arse raw for you if you ever find yourself travelling
to the Grand Canyon area of the U.S.
the reason is simply a
supply/demand issue, there are many many more submissive men here then there are
attractive Dommes who aren't professionals. Therefore the Dommes have a plethora
of candidates to choose from, not to suggest that you may not have the ideal ass
for spanking however the Dommes probably get so many appeals from males that
they simply become inundated and perhaps even bored. My advice to you would be
to find a local real live D/s group that meets in your area, finding someone
while at a themed event or a live discussion might provide better results, keep
in mind a lot of people lie online.
Good luck with your search.
Hello there! I took a brief look at your bio and it says that you are in the UK. If you were not so far away I was spank your ass if that is what you wish. But maybe you should advertise in your area closer to where you are. and I do agree with you that an old fashion over the knee spanking is great. So be well and have a great day.
"my naughty smooth bottom" is probably one reason you are having trouble. Contrary to popular belief "naughty talk" with a Domme who is not well associated with you will more then likely get you ignored...remember it is a privilege to speak with Her...an honor to flirt with Her and She will give "rewards" in Her own good time. Older females have no time for pushy wheedling boys...show her that Her comfort is your main concern and She will make sure your discomfort is Hers.
The best place is to go to a gym where you find a woman who is working out with weights. This woman is wanting to strengthen her self to compete with men and they love to show their dominance over a male and spanking gives them that feeling. Good luck
Does it absolutely have to be an older woman? Why not find a younger woman who is willing to 'role-play' the part of an 'older woman' and dress up as such and spank your 'naughty little bottom'? Just a thought to solve the problem. Hope it helps.
Hey! First of all, women never respond to any contact announcements. 80% of those who claim to be a woman are in fact a man or in some cases a TV/TG. Those few women who may respond to you are professionals who just want your money. Suggestion: Try to meet the kind of person you are looking for in your local district by visiting pubs, cafés or other places where it is natural to meet people in the actual age. Then never mention your desire until you have learned to know that actual person. After a few dates you will probably know if she's interested in younger men and if she have any interest for spanking etc. But remember this; she needs to know you and you needs to know her before anything can happened. Good luck!
Maybe it's how you
approach the women. I've had a gorgeous little hard body sub keep sending me
messages, begging for me to spank his ass because he needs it and wants it. If
he was a good sub he would be asking me what I want, not practically demanding
for me to full fill his needs.
Try asking a woman what she wants first. If she is into spanking then offer your
ass for HER pleasure. It just might get you a different response.
Still confused ? Well that is part of the fun !
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