SPANKOZ WOMEN'S PAGE
( We are
gradually rewriting this page and producing a companion MEN'S
PAGE . )
Woman are from Tiffany's , men are from Hardwarehouse !
Interest in spanking can range from a mildly passing interest through reading and talking about it to active involvement and ultimately , for some , to it becoming a major part of their lifestyle .
POINTS TO PONDER
Do you like to give , receive or do both ?
Are there differences in your " spanking levels " for each of these activities ?
Does your attitude towards a man change if he wants you to spank him ?
What do you think about the Femdom ( female domination ) movement ?
Is there a relationship between spanking and domination ?
Is there a relationship between spanking and love ?
There are generally more men than women at spanking parties , why is this so ?
What about " Going Public " to express an interest in spanking ( either directly or indirectly ) ?
Is the word " ladies " appropriate ?
Are there other Points which should be included here ?
According to Kinsey's research , 18% of ladies find the idea of being spanked erotic and actually have enjoyed being spanked . Who knows how many more would like to be but have missed out ?
ANOTHER VIEWPOINT
" This
woman is holding a paddle engraved with the word SPANK over her breasts -
inviting the viewer to imagine using the paddle . "
" The
images on this page were stolen from various web sites - including Playboy and
Penthouse . While searching for the images , I became frustrated and disturbed
because it was difficult for me to find any
" normal " pornography on the internet . Yet there are many genres ,
all increasingly violent and degrading , that are proliferating . "
............ Fear Us
Here are a couple
of extracts to get the ball rolling ( these talk of " Pleasure " spankings , as
contrasted with " Punishment " spankings ) :
" He has to be nude and I have to be across his bare thighs . I can feel his thing under me and his hand comes down on my behind which is covered in a transparent pair of pink panties . He slaps me quickly with both hands on both cheeks and I know he is looking down at me as he does so . Very soon I will feel a hot sensation mounting in my bottom and this is enough to give me orgasm which is what we both want . When things have got to a fever pitch with us both we get up and , without a word , lie together on our bed and make love in the proper way . I see no harm in this slapping . Lots of lovers make love in different ways . This is our thing , isn't it ? "
" I like to see his manly muscles , and the tops of the backs of his thighs
relaxing and expanding as I slap him on his bare bottom . I put a pillow beneath him and
this raises his bottom up . He likes being slapped and before very long he is ready to
turn round , on his stomach , and to let me see he is ready for intercourse . "
How can I get him to spank me ?
Getting your partner to spank you will take a little role playing on your part. Next time you are engaging in foreplay, start telling your partner you've been bad and that you need a spanking . ( Or work on your own script . )
One way or the other , get across his lap , keep using emotive
key words and phrases such as " naughty " , " I've been bad
" , " spank " , " spanking " , " Spank Me ! "
. Of course , doing a little squirming will
help , see the short movie " Whacked "
for examples of how
to do this . Back to the right words , which now include " I'm a Bad Little Girl ! ,
" I'm a bad girl . "
Be especially energetic during coitus afterwards ( if this occurs ) . If he hasn't worked out that you like to be spanked , keep working on him . Tell him !
Be prepared to initiate the spanking and , of course , ultimately you are in control .
Far More Women than men like to be spanked
As best as I can tell ,
the situation is that women into spanking almost ( note the weasel word "
almost " ) universally prefer to be recipients , while men split into the
givers and receivers , often having a foot in both camps . Usually women new to
spanking consider
spanking men to be somewhat icky , although a number broaden their preferences
once they are firmly into the scene , although preference still seems clearly
towards receiving . Men may either be pure spankers or switches or pure
submissives , but the last group seems
small . I have no particular explanation for this phenomenon except the
obvious one of cultural preference for men to be aggressive and women to be less
so . It is worth noting that the CF magazine , " Men
Under Control " has a virtually all male subscription base .
Some figures , besides
keeping a naughty or nice list for CF customers , I mark those who are
identifiably female in the database and those who purchase femdom literature .
Overall , about 10% of CF , smaller than the % in the population but that is a
story for another day . While of
those CF customers who purchase femdom stories , women are about 3% . Make of
this what you will .
................. Steve Richardson
( Our page has some spanking advice from the author of this book . )
Jane
Sexes it Up: True Confessions of Feminist Desire
" It is about feminism and sexuality . What compelled me to buy
this book is , you guessed it , a chapter on spanking entitled , " Of the
Flesh Fancy : Spanking & the Single Girl " by Chris Daley .
Basically she captures what many of us have experienced when we went from
feeling that " there's something wrong with me if I like this "
to realizing that exploring our sexual needs and fantasies is empowering
and doesn't mean we want to be abused ....Edith "
Spanking Pain
Stages
Have any of you noticed the various stages of spanking pain ? They are as
follows :
1. First there is the anxiety pain of wondering if you will be spanked or not
for a certain offence .
2 . Then when you receive the sentence you wonder how painful it will be as you
wait through the preliminaries .
3 . Then you get the first stroke . It hits and for about a nanosecond you do
not feel any pain , hoping that it will never come but you know it will .
4 . The pain then starts rising from the first stroke .
5 . Before the first stroke's pain hits its peak you get the second stroke .
6 . It continues like this all through the spanking , stacking pain upon pain as
the cycles overlap .
7 . You finally reach a pain limit where further strokes do not make much
difference . This is why different implements need different tempos . It's why
canings are done slowly . The pain is so severe that it is better to spread it
out over a longer time . ( Learned from experience ! )
8 . The spanking ends but the pain lingers , gradually decreasing over time ,
depending on the implement .
9 . The pain ends and the much desired afterglow begins . Again depending on the
implement .
10 . Finally the after-afterglow . This can last a lifetime as we remember the
excitement of a particular spanking session and relive it over and over again .
I had my first proper caning several months ago and have not had one since . I
now know what Melanie meant when she wrote that it is an experience you will
want to do again . I'm not sure when we will try it but we will. There has not
been a hour go by since then when I do not think about the caning I got from Deb
or the caning she will give me again some day . I have forgotten the pain
somewhat but the excitement of the whole drama has replayed itself in my mind
constantly .
Hot butts to you all !
Cheryl
..... from F/F
Spanking Forum
The
Bride Stripped Bare
Nikki Gemmell
" She wrote a steamy , explicit ( and anonymous ) book exposing the secret sex life of a sweet suburban housewife . Then someone blew Nikki Gemmell's cover ."
Well publicised , but on the tame side .
Treatise du Spike by Thomas B. Lierse
( From ARCHENEMYS.COM )
President, Long Island Staylace Association High heels change the presentation of a woman's entire body: The calves become more delineated and therefore sexier; the body's center of gravity is changed, and thus the hips are thrust into a sexy position, as well, the breasts are forced to jut out slightly. In addition, women, knowing they present an erotic picture, array themselves with more confidence and grace. The required walking pattern changes, because she must take a more mincing step.
The whole shoe itself exhibits a fetishist sexuality and displays the foot in its best light, showing the feminine shape of the arch, and pointing the way north, toward further "delights". The heels themselves can be viewed as phallic symbols, the inner part of the fronts symbols of penetrative entry. Then there is the material used for the shoe: soft, hard, breathing, silky, shiny, lacy and on and on: all parts of a woman's body or image. Then there is the toe "cleavage", which brings to mind breast cleavage.
The type of shoe also changes the perspective: Ankle straps connote bondage, while sandals allow a peak at painted toenails, representative of the inner parts of a woman's sexual organs and the opportunity for probing. Mules suggest the slapping associated with spanking.
It has been said that a woman's body in spikes emulates her posture during orgasm. I don't know how true that is, but I can see from where to idea came. " The air up there is not so thin, but rather imbued with the delights of knowing that all those below you envy you .
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If you are in Sydney we can help you with a first time spanking experience . These " sessions " generally last between one and two hours ( some women do like to talk a lot ! ) . They are free but there may be a small charge for expenses . We would like you to come to our functions in return . There is no obligation and everything is strictly confidential .
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Men are
from Mars , Women are from Venus
John
Gray
" I found this a marvellously enlightening book for understanding and improving relationships with men . The chapter on men being like rubber bands was particularly helpful . If only my husband would read it ! "
.......................... From Publishers Weekly
Copyright 2002 Cahners Business Information , Inc.
SOME LIGHT HEARTED ADVICE FROM SCSW
Ladies just a few ideas of what not to say or do during your spankings .
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By definition a stereotype is devoid of subtlety or complexity. Ill advised use of stereotypes tends to reinforce prejudices and constitutes an assault on the dignity & diversity of the individual. Most women hold contempt for stereotyping, they demand choice in their lives and are not prepared to fit any easy mould. Whilst there have been improvements in recent times, there is a way to go. This research seems equally applicable to women in policing. We have to contend with both sex and occupational stereotyping. Certainly sex trait stereotyping is alive and well in TV shows (& media reporting). These are the most common types of stereotypes women in general suffer
1. The emotionality of TV women. On TV, women are much more emotional than men. It is one of the many ironies of the representation of emotion that violence and aggression are not counted as being, a display of emotion. Women are often portrayed as flustered, in crisis, sensitive, fearful & anxious, often dependent on male help and support in both personal and professional situations, moodiness and neurotic. Lisa McCune of 'Blue Heelers' is often seen doing the soft stuff - making the tea, comforting, the victims. This is an easy trap to fall into. My own branch is involved in producing training videos, posters and television commercials. Whilst we are very conscious about gender balance there is still a tendency to place women in the more compassionate roles - whether this is stereotyping or merely a reflection of real life is probably open to opinion. (At the same time we also don't want to lose the gender difference!)
2. The sexuality of TV women. Television women are nearly always physically or sexually attractive no matter what their role. Much more emphasis is placed on their looks than . The tendency for casting of policewomen is glamorous & beautiful if they are playing a major role, but if it is a minor extra part they are usually frumpy, fat, ugly & tough! Emphasis is placed on a women's youth and "decorative" features instead of her intelligence, ambitions or desires for her own self fulfilment. An interesting development in emphasising gender differences in drama is the technique of 'unresolved sexual tension' between partners. It keeps the audience 'hanging'. Women police have proved extremely handy for this and it is becoming more common. EG. 'Blue Heelers', 'Water Rats', 'The X-files', 'Cracker' etc.
3. The power and competence of TV women. In sitcoms men and women are found to be equal (eg. 'The Thin Blue Line') In crime drama men are far more likely to be dominant even when professional status is irrelevant. Men are usually seen to give the orders and advice except of course if it is about a traditional female topic. In Australian & British drama this is slowly changing - WaterRats has a good gender mix portrayed in their command - a female Chief Supt, a female acting tactician, and a senior female detective. The Bill is seemingly "gender indifferent" - female Chief of Detectives and women in all sorts of roles.
4. The assertiveness and ambitious nature of women. Female characters who hold successful jobs are portrayed as 10 times more likely to be unsuccessful in marriage than housewives. You rarely see a woman portrayed as happily married with children they are usually either lesbians, divorced or single. EG. 'Water Rats' has 3 main female characters - one is gay, one is divorced and one is single. Even Helen Mirren's character in 'Prime Suspect', whilst one of the most powerful and realistic portrayals of a woman, inevitably depicted her success at work at the suffering of her personal life. U.S. TV show, 'Cagney & Lacey' broke new -round by depicting a detective trying to balance work with a husband & kids (and its accompanying problems). The early portrayal of women in drama helped breakdown some of the barriers in terms of public perception and the capability of women . Shows such as 'Policewoman', 'Charlies Angels' & 'Cop Shop' portrayed independent & powerful women. Back in the early 70s when these shows were originally created it is theorised that the 'fathers' of the US film & TV industry acknowledged the force of feminism by embracing roles such as female detectives and private investigators as they showed women actually enforcing rather than challenging the patriarchal laws that many feminists believe oppress them. (It is also more likely that they realised the potential market for such characters!) In retrospect the portrayal of these women was highly problematic (eg. Angie Dickinson as Pepper Anderson never worked with another woman, she only wore high heels & tight fitting clothes; Lynda Stoner is best remembered for her chest rather than her work in 'Cop Shop' & 'Charlies Angels' only ever operated under the close yet invisible guidance of "Charlie" and are remembered more for their haircuts than their work). But whether or not you subscribe to above theory the shows were partly responsible for initiating a public awareness of the role of women and the beginning of an acknowledgment by the industry that women do play an important role in both society & drama. If you have a problem with the way you believe women have been portrayed in TV shows, write to the producer. On the whole I believe that they welcome the feedback. Often what they end up showing is based on ignorance and like any commercial product they do not want to alienate anybody. So if it is brought to their attention you can assist with change. In conclusion, women are generally well received in most forms of the media. Certainly in television drama shows our role has been embraced and we are usually portrayed well despite some stereotyping, which is often excused in the name of "dramatic license". In news media coverage our portrayal is usually positive and women police are perceived as more honest and ethical. Our main downfall is under representation and a seeming reluctance to put our hands up to be involved if given the opportunity. Partly this will be overcome as women achieve more command positions. Working in a traditional male occupation there seems to be a tendency to believe that women views may not be taken seriously. Be assured that international industry research indicates that female authority figures in the media are as motivating as males.
